Oprah Winfrey: You can always start over

“Nothing in the universe can stop you from letting go and starting over”  — Oprah Winfrey

A few days ago, I was skimming through the life story of the iconic Oprah Winfrey, and her journey has lingered in my thoughts. Oprah had a challenging childhood. Growing up without proper parental love, and endured abuse from the age of nine until she bravely decided to run away from home. At just 14, she faced the hardship of a premature birth and the subsequent loss of her son.

Despite facing countless challenges, she held onto a vision that transcended her immediate circumstances. She embraced numerous fresh starts, each leading to unparalleled success. Her story teaches us that resilience is merely about bouncing back. It is about embracing the power to start over, to reinvent ourselves. 

I have witnessed individuals who, after significant business losses, dust themselves off and embark on a new beginning. Conversely, I've seen those who, facing similar challenges, surrender immediately, convinced they've exhausted all options. As they navigate life hopelessly, waiting for the inevitable, they forget that even when you're playing it safe, life can throw unexpected curveballs your way. So, why not consider starting over?

For some, starting over may not seem imperative. Perhaps they were born into generational wealth or have forged a fulfilling career or business path. Yet, if you find yourself contemplating these thoughts: I am too old, I am not sure I can go back to school;  I tried this business, and it did not work out; People will think I am confused, maybe I should abandon this and focus on something else; How do I even start over? I have been unlucky in friendships/relationships; maybe I should just be an island.

These thoughts may be holding you back, but remember, you can always start over. It's never too late to pursue a new path, learn new skills, or build new relationships. Each fresh start holds the potential for growth, resilience, and unexpected success.

Here are a few practical steps to guide you to start over.

1 Reflection and Self-Assessment

Take time to reflect on your current situation. What aspects of your life do you want to change? What are your values, passions, and goals?

Assess your strengths, skills, and experiences that can be carried forward into your new beginning.

2 Define Your Goals

Clearly articulate your goals for starting over. Whether it's pursuing a new career, improving relationships, or personal development, having well-defined objectives provides direction.

3 Create a Plan

Break down your goals into actionable steps. Develop a realistic and achievable plan that outlines the tasks and milestones needed to reach your objectives.

Consider seeking guidance from mentors, career counselors, or life coaches for professional advice.

4 Embrace Change and Adaptability

Recognize that starting over often involves stepping out of your comfort zone. Embrace change as a natural part of growth and be open to adapting to new circumstances.

5 Learn from Past Experiences

Reflect on past experiences and setbacks. What have you learned from them? Use these lessons to inform your decisions and actions as you embark on a new journey.

6 Build a Support System

Surround yourself with supportive and positive individuals who can provide encouragement, advice, and perspective during times of change.

Share your goals with friends, family, or mentors who can offer guidance and emotional support.

7 Develop New Skills

Identify the skills needed for your new path and invest time in developing them. This may involve formal education, training programs, or self-directed learning.

Stay curious and be willing to acquire new knowledge and abilities.

8 Take Small, Consistent Steps

Break down your journey into manageable steps. Celebrate small victories along the way, and recognize that progress is often made through consistent effort.

Starting over doesn't have to be a sudden, drastic change. Incremental adjustments can lead to significant transformations over time.

9 Maintain a Positive Mindset

Cultivate a positive and resilient mindset. Focus on the possibilities that come with starting over, rather than dwelling on perceived failures or challenges.

Practice self-compassion and acknowledge the courage it takes to embark on a new path.

10 Stay Persistent and Patient

Recognize that starting over is a process that takes time. Stay persistent in pursuing your goals, even when faced with setbacks.

Be patient with yourself and allow room for growth and adjustment.

Remember that starting over is a courageous and empowering choice. It's never too late to redefine your path and create a life that aligns with your values and aspirations. Embrace the journey, learn from each experience, and keep moving forward towards a fulfilling and meaningful future. 

Written by Eduwem Oboho, our guest writer and CEO at Zee’s budget store.